Love matters. Whether it's the romantic kind or the emotional bond between you and family or friends. Indeed latest research suggests that those who love and are loved are significantly more likely to be alive in 10 years time than those without love in their lives. Love makes us happy, and the happier we are, the longer it seems we tend to live. So, why is it that some people find relationships so easy? We all know the kind of person, married forever, connected with their family, and strong friendships that have stood the test of time from all stages of life. The people who make friends easily, who have someone utterly devoted to them and for whom many would do anything. What do they know and do that the rest of us could learn from? That's what you'll find in this book. If you study people who are so good at relationships you discover it's not about their personality or gender or how self sacrificing they are. Those who are great in all relationships usually do have to work at it. The secret is that they know exactly where to put their efforts. They know the Rules of Love. In this book these Rules are revealed, so you too can benefit from the simple principles of forming and sustaining strong, enduring and ultimately, life enhancing relationships.

Contents
Rule 2 Get Over It Before You Get on with It
Rule 3 You Wont Be Happy with a Partner Until You Can Be Happy on Your Own
Rule 4 Youll Know Them When You Meet Them
Rule 5 Choose Someone Who Makes You Laugh
Rule 6 Being Less than a Hundred Percent Attractive Is a Great Filter
Rule 7 Dont Keep Making the Same Mistakes
Rule 8 Certain People Are Off Limits You Know Who They Are
Rule 9 You Cant Change People
Rule 10 Relationships Arent About Sex
Rule 11 You Should Know Someone Through All the Seasons Before You Make Any Major Decisions
Rule 12 Dont Stay with Someone Who Doesnt Care
Rule 13 If You Cant Trust Them You Havent Got a Relationship
Rule 14 Be Honest While You Still Have the Chance
Rule 15 Dont Play Games
Rule 16 Dont Paint New Partners with Old Brushes
Rule 17 Make Sure You Both Have the Same Shared Goals
Rule 18 You Cant Make Someone Love You
Rule 19 Be Cruel to Be Kind Rules of Relationships
Rule 20 Be Nice
Rule 21 Be Together Because You Want to Not Because You Need To
Rule 22 Allow Your Partner the Space to Be Themselves
Rule 23 Look to Your Own Faults
Rule 24 Be Honorable
Rule 25 Put Each Other First
Rule 26 Recognize the Signs
Rule 27 Be a Heroor a Heroine
Rule 28 Accept the Differences Embrace What You Have in Common
Rule 29 Houston We Have a Problem
Rule 30 You Want to Do What?
Rule 31 Let Not the Sun Go Down Upon Your Wrath
Rule 32 Be the First to Say Sorry
Rule 33 Dont Belittle Your Partner
Rule 34 Dont Put Them on a Pedestal and Expect Them to Stay There
Rule 35 Dont Dump Responsibility on Your Partner
Rule 36 Never Stop Trying to Be Attractive
Rule 37 If You Can Say Anything Nice Do
Rule 38 Dont Try to Be Their Parent
Rule 39 Dont Be a Nag
Rule 40 If Little Things Annoy You Say Sowith Humor
Rule 41 Go that Extra Step in Trying to Please Them
Rule 42 Make Sure Your Partner Is Always Pleased to See You
Rule 43 Know When to Listen and When to Act
Rule 44 Let Them Know If You Dont Like Their Friends
Rule 45 Jealousy Is Your Stuff Not Theirs
Rule 46 Your Partner Is More Important Than Your Kids
Rule 47 Make Time for Romance
Rule 48 Have a Passion for Your Life Together
Rule 49 Share the Workload
Rule 50 Trust the Other One to Do the Job
Rule 51 Be Part of Their Life
Rule 52 Make Sure Your Love Making Is Making Love
Rule 53 Dont Control Them
Rule 54 Listen to What Theyre Not Saying
Rule 55 Most Everyday Arguments Are About Something Else
Rule 56 Respect Privacy
Rule 57 Treat Your Partner Better than Your Best Friend
Rule 58 Dont Be Offended if They Want Some Space
Rule 59 Men Like Flowers Too
Rule 60 Keep Your Finances Separate
Rule 61 Contentment Is a High Aim
Rule 62 Be Generous to Each Other Financially
Rule 63 You Make a Choice Every Day
Rule 64 Dont Be a Martyr
Rule 65 You Dont Both Have to Have the Same Rules
Rule 66 Put Yourself in Their Shoes
Rule 67 InLaws Are Part of the Package
Rule 68 Keep Talking
Rules of Parting
Rule 69 Listen to Your Own Internal Voice
Rule 70 Recognize That It Takes Two
Rule 71 Keep the Moral High Ground
Rule 72 Dont Keep Reliving It Over and Over
Rule 73 Leave the Kids Out of It Rules for Family
Rule 74 Dont Blame Your Parents
Rule 75 Dont Let Your Parents Control Your Feelings
Rule 76 Your Children Come Before You
Rule 77 Nothing Is Worth Falling Out Over
Rule 78 Treat Them the Way You Believe Is Right No Matter How They Treat You
Rule 79 Dont Pressure Your Family Just Because You Can
Rule 80 Never Be Too Busy for Loved Ones
Rule 81 Your Children Need to Fall Out with You to Leave Home
Rule 82 They Dont Have to Be the Same as You
Rule 83 Theres Always Stuff with Siblings
Rule 84 Let Go of Your Role Rules of Friendship
Rule 85 There Are No Rules
Rule 86 Your Best Friend Was Once a Stranger
Rule 87 Only Have People in Your Life Who Make It Better Not Worse
Rule 88 If Youre Going to Be a Friend Be a Good Friend
Rule 89 Never Give Advice
Rule 90 Find Friends Who Love the Truth
Rule 91 Never Lend Money Unless Youre Prepared to Write It Off
Rule 92 If You Dont Like Their Partner Tough
Rule 93 When One Finger Points Forward Three Point Back
Rule 94 Friendships Change
Rule 95 Know When to Let Go
Rule 96 Bitterness Helps No One Rules for Everyone
Rule 97 Guilt Is a Selfish Emotion
Rule 98 Love Equals Time
Rule 99 The More You Give the More You Get Back
Rule 100 Other People Are Where Its At
Footnotes